We touch other people’s lives simply by existing.
I am really hoping that you’ll take advantage of the ask box and help others in spreading the positivity around. I’ll post an old list of mine to help y’all out. I really want this to be an outlet for you all to recheck your days and lives and really find the positive things about it. XD. so. here’s another example of it!
1. finalizations are coming along greatly for my late brother’s dedication tattoo.
2. my dad and i are going to attempt to fix our lack of relationship.
3. i’ve emotionally released alot tonight.
4. i’m going to pick up bento box recipe cooking and baking.
5. God is still good. even when i’m at my worst. and. i’m pretty much there mentally.
6. i know i can depend on you all when i need it.
7. letters! how could i have missed the joy in writing them! although since my laptop has been taken away till i get a job. your addresses need to be texted to me.
8. i’ve got job applications i’ve been completing. which is huge for my small town of kouts.
9. thank goodness i can still do photography through film. i prolly would have lost my mind if i didn’t have that.
10. i’ve picked up painting. which is interesting and fun.
11. we are studying one of my favorite books in the ‘women’s bible study’ at my church. Hosea. and. i get to reread and own ‘Redeeming Love’ by Francine Rivers. an amazing author.
12. studying to get my license. so. hopefully i’ll be able to legally drive as soon as college approaches again.
I have 12 up here but I am really hoping that everyone can find at least 10 things and if not how ever many real things you can find.. Get looking towards the positive side of things and use my ask!
“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.”
W. M Lewis
“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.”
I love getting started with a new habit or project. There is excitement and a certain freshness ahead of you as you are about to get going.
But sometimes it stops there. At about to get going. Because “you don’t have the time”. Or it’s “not the right time right now”.
I have whole chapters on how I establish new habits, keep up the motivation after that initial enthusiasm perhaps has started to wane and on how to become more of a person of action in The Art of Relaxed Productivity and the Simplicity Course.
But today I would like to share just three tips for that first, crucial step. Three steps that have worked for me over and over to get started with something and to grow.
Ask yourself: Do I really want this?
One reason that you may never seem to get started is because your heart is not in it. If you set a goal but it isn’t your goal then it will be hard to achieve or even getting started with it.
If you realize that it’s a goal set by people around you – parents, teachers, bosses or society in general – then, when possible, eliminate the goal and set a few goals you would like to achieve.
Or try to find you own motivation and reasons for achieving a goal rather than the ones people around you have set. This could put the goal in different light and suddenly you’ll feel a whole lot motivated to get started.
But you don’t always have to have a burning desire to do something to get going. I have begun something many, many times just because I was curious. If you are curious but feel an inner resistance then the next two tips will be helpful.
Ask yourself: What is the worst that could happen?
If you feel like you can’t get started for some reason then ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen?
A lot of the fear we feel before getting started comes from fuzzy and foggy thoughts about what could happen. But if you actually imagine the worst realistic scenario then it’s often not as frightening as you thought. You won’t die or anything. And it won’t ruin the rest of your life.
Imagine the worst scenario and then try to create a plan how you could get on your feet again if that scenario, against all probability, should happen. You’ll then most often realize that whatever your fear is you could probably get back on your feet and back to your normal life pretty quickly once again.
Start the easy way.
If it feels like too big of an effort in your mind then you’ll come up with all kinds of reasons to not get started.
So start easy. Take a small step into something new.
- Go out running for just 10 minutes. Instead of running for 45 minutes. Or run for just 5 minutes and walk for 5 minutes. The important thing is to make the habit stick and you do that by actually doing it a whole bunch of times. Then you can slowly, step by step, increase the amount of time you spend running each time you are out.
- Work on something new for just 10 minutes. If you feel reluctant to starting with something new then commit to start doing actual work – not more planning or preparation – for just 10 minutes. Or for 5 minutes if 10 seems too much. Then do just 5 or 10 minutes of work on the new thing each day. After you have gotten started you will however often just continue working after those first few minutes minutes are up.
Getting started is often the hardest part so make it easy on yourself by initially setting the bar as low as you are comfortable with.
My mother often said, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. My father would quickly add, “then sell the lemonade at a fair price for a proft”. It sounded like a good way to live until I grew older and realized how many lemons there really are in the world.
Advancing technology has made it easier than ever to find life’s lemons. Newspapers, radio, tv, the internet, and close-to-real-time services like Twitter allow us to fill every waking moment with lemons.
So why is it that we often insist on spending the conversations we have with those around us on negative things? Why do we choose sour remarks and biting tones when we could stir in some positive remarks and make some smiles? Don’t we all have enough lemons to make our daily lemonade without seeking them out?
5 ways to spread positivity
- Practice pleasantries – A non-grouchy “good morning” to coworkers or adding “I really appreciate it” to required “thank you’s” are good steps away from negativity.
- Share some positivity – Find a good story each day and share it with at least three people. As you become known for being a source of good conversations and uplifting news, don’t be surprised if people flock to you!
- Save the lemon for later – When something is bothering you, don’t obsess and let your concern spill over into your conversations. Instead, take a moment to write down your next move to improve and put it in a safe place. Come back to your “lemon” when you are able to commit your entire focus on promoting a solution.
- Slow down your response time - In our jiffy pop society, it’s easy to get caught up in trying to respond immediately. There’s a reason “promptly” and “instantly” are defined separately in the dictionary. One implies the care while the other is only about speed. Making an effort to produce thoughtful responses even if it means simply breathing fully before speaking, will work wonders for the quality of your conversations. Eliminating the lemons will also help avoid tension caused by a thoughtless response.
- Learn to laugh with others - A joke or situation doesn’t have to be enormously funny in order for you to take joy in it. Instead of shrugging off the next joke your friend tells or trying to top a story, laugh. You may soon find that your sense of humor has expanded to find a smile in things you would have frowned at previously.
Being aware of the lemon in your mouth is a constant project. It’s easy to slip into negative conversations. When you begin to taste the bitter citrus, you’ll know it’s time for some positivity!
Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health. Practice overcoming negative self-talk with examples provided.
Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic — and it may even affect your health.
Indeed, some studies show that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that typically comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management. And effective stress management is associated with many health benefits. If you tend to be pessimistic, don’t despair — you can learn positive thinking skills. Here’s how.
Understanding positive thinking and self-talk
Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach the unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.
Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you’re likely an optimist — someone who practices positive thinking.
The health benefits of positive thinking
Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
- Increased life span
- Lower rates of depression
- Lower levels of distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
- Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits. One theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body. It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.